"What kind of a M is that"? EXACTLY!! It stinks, it is no good, at least right now. What is he going to do about it? Nothing, nada, zip, zilch. What are you going to do about it? It sounds like you have done everything. Then try a little more. You want to save the M so that is your only option, right? If your done trying then you have to move to option B which potentially leads to the big D.
Option B: If you are drawing male attention and he doesn't care he is a fool. Some people aren't real bright and need a major jolt to change. I am very proactive so if this was my sitch I would prepare for single life. Ever seen "Extreme Makeover"? You are a great person (you know that) so take your look to the nines and then be aloof, be very aloof. This is kind of like playing with a cat and a ball of string. If you don't move the ball the cat doesn't have any interest, but shake it and the cat is all over it. If you "shake it" and that big dumb cat doesn't move, he isn't normal and you need a new cat. My best friend asked me this question when my M was a wreck, "Do you really want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?" He said it to give me some much needed perspective but how true it is. You are young, attractive, intelligent and sexy but the big dumb cat doesn't seem to want to be with you. Some here will disagree with my tactics but you have been more than patient and it is time to "shake" things up.
I "pushed" very hard to have the M that I wanted. My W knows that I have high standards and won't settle. I told my W that I wouldn't settle for anything less than a great M, period. I point blank asked her, "So, are you in or out?" Bold? Yes. Stupid? Maybe. Successful? Ooohhh yeah!
