Aver, Just remember - you can start out fighting and abandon ship later if you don't want to fight anymore. I bet H won't fight as much as you think - I've walked this road - its not nearly as bad as you think.... I'm not saying its easy.
HE LEFT. HE'S HAD AN AFFAIR. I KNOW the courts aren't SUPPOSED to consider that stuff but lets be honest... it factors in. You have advantages that are more subjective in this process. I think your lawyer is trying to get the easiest case workload for herself but still collect her fee.... she represents you! I'm sure she's a great lawyer but you make sure she does what is best for you based on what YOU want.
Keep in mind - you jointly own the house. It doesn't matter WHO did the repairs or WHO built what. He abandoned the house - have you been making the payments? or the part the renters don't cover?
I think you are over estimating H and under estimating yourself. I don't know how one "grows" their self esteem - but I think that could help you. YOU CAN stand up to him. If you DON'T want to move then STAY - I think he will slink away a little easier than you think....
Parting ways sucks and someone always loses. Given his behavior - it should be him. If you keep the house and decide that you want to move away later YOU get to sell it and benefit from that investment.
He's backed down - use this to your advantage. Come out swinging right now while he's "vulnerable" - he doesn't have the balls!!!!
You can do this!!!
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