Thank you both so much! This is VERY helpful. I really appreciate it.

Aver, right – he doesn’t tell me sh*t about his life but suddenly I need to move/decide, b/c his situation changes. I’m no longer dragging my feet! I wanted to get in there how much blood sweat & tears this is all taking but of course you both are right, short & to the pt. is the way to go. He could care less how much trouble he's caused me.

In fact I write as part of my job, am usually told I’m a “good” writer, but somehow when I try to do these emails to H, I cannot seem to get the tone I need, it’s the hardest writing I’ve ever done – you guys are keeping me in line. Thanks again! I’ll check in soon. (((()))))