Which of the below is more true (one or more or none).
1) My spouse likes to be in control of our relationship. h has always been in control from day one, deciding when we would see eachother while dating, whether or not we would go out etc. of course he wouldn't agree with that. I've expressed to him the fact that it appears he is in control and he doesn't see it but appologizes for it. truth be told I feel like he's in control and I'm just the wife child here. He pays the bills so decides how the money is spent. I am primary caregiver to the kids so he doesn't need to find a sitter if he has something to do or a place to go while I do. He is in control of when we have sex. He is in control of when we spend time together as a couple or as a family etc etc etc
2) My spouse is intimidated by my desire for intimacy. not neccessarily MY desire for intimacy (if we are talking about intimacy as opposed to simply physical intimacy) but perhaps intimacy in general
3) My spouse has a confidence problem. Something I never would believe to be true when just looking at the surface but yes I do believe he's not as confident as he portrays.
4) My spouse doesn't find me attractive. that's a hard one to swallow since most people do find me attractive. I would assume that h does find me attractive but his lack of desire sends the message to me that he doesn't.
5) My spouse has a mental or physical issue with intimacy. see answer to #2, but of course he's not likely to agree.
6) My spouse is angry at me and won't turn loose of past issues. that's a possibility but I'll be damned if I know what he's so angry at as he doesn't complain about anything but my complaining.
7) My spouse thinks I harbor past issues. possible. When I'm having a down day or something brings up the past (mostly just surrounding his a and seperation) I don't hold it against him but simply let him know I'm having a bad day and his is mostly understanding and supportive or consoling.
