nsw, would you intentionally deprive your D of her primary caregiving parent by sending her to jail? What kind of father are you?
Thats why I have misgivings about doing it...although my ex is NOT the primary caregiving parent. I currently have D3 6 of 7 nights and one full day during that, and even before we split up I was the primary caregiver.
I dont want her to go to jail...I dont want to use what I know given what could happen to her...but am I just supposed to let them take D3 away from me by her and her L throwing all the crap back at me that happend over the last month or so because of what she did in the first place?
If it wouldnt come back on me as blackmail, I would just tell my ex what I know and ask her to work this out amicably instead of trying to take D3 away and her getting in trouble.
Originally Posted By: knittedscarff
Originally Posted By: newmama
marijuana? drugs of some kind at least...or was she doing work "under the table" and evading taxes? Or prostitution? Or working for the mafia?
So let me get this straight...if your ex hadn't left you, you would be TOTALLY OK
no not really. I was never comfortable with it in all the years its been going on.
Originally Posted By: knittedscarff
In any case, illegal is illegal. Like someone else said, there's no gray area when it comes to the law. And seriously, you are putting your daughter at risk for Child Protective Services. You really need to think about this.
But since she has left you for an old fart, you want to bring up her failures...although you wouldn't see them as a problem if she was banging you and not him.
Am I missing the logic of this?
I know. Thats why I'm hoping the stuff thats 100% pertaining to this custody case is enough to help me keep things as they are.
My using this information would have nothing to do with her and the OM doing whatever they do...as I said I'm done with her and if she wants to be with him thats her choice. It has everything to do with her trying to take D3 away from me and saying it is in the best interests of D3. Like I said, before any of this happened I was still the primary caregiver and frequently and resentfully dubbed "super dad" by my ex.
The sad thing is...much like when she left us and broke up our family...the real person to lose in all of this is D3...and despite all my attempts to convince my ex otherwise, she continues to say and think "D3 will be fine...I am a great role model for D3 when she's in my care".
