dBD, at this point, do not ever assume he i being nice for any other reason than lrgal strategy...sorry to sound cynical, but keep that guard up! So since you changed your focus, do you see your kids' attitudes changing too? I mean do you think they noticed your changes?
newmama, omg yes... I must keep it in mind about the legal strategy. He's being polite and even nice. Got another "good" email today. I gotta be strong and not get weak over these crumbs of new civility. argh. It's what I've been wanting, but I *cannot* read into it--as YES, it's because of legal strategy... this week we might agree to my temp support or it goes before a magistrate to decide.
I guess the kids attitudes have changed. I've told them to avoid conflict with him as it will get them nowhere fast with him. I've explained to them the traits of a narcissist and what the advice is on dealing with one. They completely agree that he is and can now even laugh about the stupid things he does instead of getting frustrated. Understanding this about him is helping them as unfortunately they will have to deal with that in their R with him too.
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