WAW Using God II

[pigskin]

Guys I'm not clear here. Pigskin (get a new name!!) um, okay. So your w is NOT with this OM that she admits...and he was in a public gathering and it's over between them "officially" speaking. AND she's out of the house trying to sort things out but feels that a div is likely as she simply isn't in love with you?

Def tell me if I'm mssing something. IF I have the whole pic, then no offense, but what position are you in to tell her anything about who she sees or runs into? I'm just asking. I don't hear her asking you to start trusting her or hear her saying she wants to regain it so what will SHE say she has to do and to accomplish...what?

Aren't you simply giving her space & trying to look like the better choice and let her figure this out on her own? IF so, how does putting your foot down in a sitch like THIS, help you do that? What is your goal and how would this course of action help you get to it? Be careful you don't set restrictions on someone who thinks you're in no authority to do so. Does not mean be a doormat, but be damn sure you don't push her so far or make her laugh you out of the room....wish I could help more.

And by the way, when it comes to moral choices and you find yourself at a crossroads and reallyy don't know which path is the "righter" one...the one that is hardest for YOU to take, is almost always the "righter" one -- b/c if it weren't, the choice would have been easier....just a thought that may apply to her or you someday.
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25 you have the "official" story right. Supposedly she has broken off her EA. It was a really deep EA, and she sees the guy at church, and runs in the same circle of friends. I just think it would be naive of me to think that she has completely ended it. But I have no proof, and am not seeking any, since we are separated and not reconciling.

Under these conditions I realize I have no right to tell her who she can see or run into, and I do not do so. But I do think I have a right to demand that our children are not exposed to this man. She agreed that they would not be, and violated that agreement.