I think I'd rather be dead than this- WAW

[GH31]

Q9,

I want so bad to improve myself and make myself more marketable.

Good.

Have you read THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage? It's probably the most effective book I've ever read on relationships, especially what the man has to do to make the woman thrilled to be married to him. It also details what types of woman are not worth being married to.

Also excellent is The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman. Absolute gold.

The scariest book I think I have ever read: Women's Infidelity. Holy smokes - this book sent shivers down my spine.

I have heard about this book but haven't read it. I'm not surprised to hear your verdict and will read it.

Dad: 1st M - maybe 2 years, 2nd M - 9 years, 3rd M - 5 years, and last M 14 years
Mom: 1st M - about 1 year (I think), 2nd M - 9 years, 3rd M - 3 years, and last M over 14 years

Which one was your parents' marriage?

WTF!!! She was sleeping with him while preg and threatened to abort your son?!

Yes. She did these things. Not only that, she flew from Australia where we live to England (where OM lives) to do this - three times last year and spent thousands.

I hacked into her emails and got all the correspondence referring to abortions, references to when they had sex etc. It's in a very safe place should I ever need it for legal purposes.

I am sorry GH31. I appreciate you sharing here

You're welcome.

To be honest I'm surprised that all you wanted to do to her was hit her with a brick.

I've wanted to do so much more than this.

The only reason I stayed was to ensure that she would not abort our son, or do whatever I could to ensure she did not.

8 weeks after DS was born I did a paternity test to ensure he's mine. He is.

The second time she went to England I could not have cared less if she never came back. I slept so much better and friends commented on how much better I looked when she was gone. I even thought if she weren't pregnant I could just go - I wanted to so badly but she was carrying my baby - I would have put literally nothing past her.

I am shocked she would even consider that!

Don't be shocked mate.

This behaviour is very typical of wives (and husbands) in an affair. They will do anything to keep the affair alive and that sometimes includes committing crimes.

My W even asked me to put money in her account whilst she was living with OM. I told her to get ****ed.

The reason she wanted an abortion is because OM threw her on the sh!theap after learning she was pregnant with my baby and got himself a new GF. OM didn't want her to have the abortion in the end and couldn't trust W either. Afterall, she had come back to me several times for sex because OM had an erectile dysfunction problem.

She's since harrassed him and used his credit card numbers to make purchases online.

You think she will want to contact me again?

Yes.

That surprises me. I don't get it - what do you mean they respond only to their own discomfort?

When life gets tough and they need you for something then they'll contact you. And they'll probably be as nice as pie.

They will pull out just about everything known to man to be manipulative, calculating and cunning. Just like your W was when she manipulated you into moving out of your home.

If your W has some trouble with OM, if she gets bored with him, if he goes away on a trip without her, or dumps her then she'll likely get in touch.

If you've done something like file before her or exposed her affair she will have nuclear anger for a few days followed by respect for you. She'll probably be confused about the fact she's respecting you, but you should not be.

Yep definitely making the trip to the attorney's tomorrow. I know that is what she is thinking about doing - I just dunno if she is off work tomorrow and able to do it - heck she might take off to do it.

Steel yourself and get to the lawyer's office as soon as you possibly can. Take any supporting documentation you have and file.

I hope so much that you beat her to it.

GH31