No longer "stuck808". Now my name is Bond. "MrBond

[MrBond]

Sigh. You're right about that. I haven't been trying to influence the environment like talking to her sister. Like you said, I want her to come back because she WANTS to come back and not because of some outside pressure.

Today I picked up the kids from her sister's place early in the morning. We hugged and she looked tired. She was very friendly. The kids and I had a blast and stayed out late. She called about 6 times at night to try and say goodnight to them. I eventually called her back and told her about what we did and how much fun we had. I asked her what she did and she just said she went to Costco by herself.

She sounded pretty lonely, but oh well. Her choice. Things are good for me right now. I doubt that she thinks about me as her husband or someone she misses. I think she's just trying to get herself in order.

But I do want her to be healthy emotionally. Despite all that she's done, she's still my W. I picked her up some sweets yesterday and gave them to her when I dropped the kids off. Later that night when I called to say goodnight to the kids, I told her that I bought the sweets because she sounded like something was bothering her at work when I talked to her earlier.

I told her that I've known her for 18 years, and know when something's bothering her, so each time I would always get her something small because she wouldn't open up to me about things. I told her I look forward to the day when I wouldn't have to buy her anything and that all she would do is tell me what was wrong. She thanked me for it.

So right now I'm just showing her that I am here to listen if she has any problems, yet at the same time, GAL and detaching as well as I can from HER issues. Right now my kids are my first priority and I'm blessed to have them.