You are right FM!! It might happen any moment regardless of how long its been! THank you. I have no idea how or if we can ever get past it. Well if he can get past it.
ok, we just had another "talk". H basically feels like our history is just too fraught with baggage for it ever to feel safe. There will always be the fear and uncertainty of things going sour and frankly he always felt that way, so if he never really felt safe, how could he see it feeling safe now that there's more pain on top of it?
I listened, I talked, he listened, he talked. We stayed calm. I have no perspective anymore. Help with perspective welcome.
