Quote: Welp, then he's not happy because you sure as heck aren't. And him basing his happiness on your happiness is so frickin' manipulative I can't even stand it. Puts one hell of a lot of pressure on you, now doesn't it? If you would just be happy, then all of us could be happy.
Passive Aggressive bullsh!t, that's what that is.
you know this, I know this, but if I try to explain this to h somehow I come off as a looney that is all screwed up. I don't think he means to be that way...sort of bread that way is all.
Quote: How does it get you closer? What are you doing that he responds to when you are acting as his friend?
it gets me closer because the pressure is off him to be anything to me. He is more relaxed etc.
what I do then is just let him be, do my best to not take anything he does or doesn't do personally.
Quote: And, what is the goal? Where do you want to get to by being his friend.
what is the goal? to get laid more often of course (again making light with humor) the goal is to have a comfortable intimate relaitionship in which we each feel comfortable and satisfied.
Quote: So tell me what Plan B might look like.
well that's no fun!! thought you were going to do the work for me.
it's hard for me to come up with a plan of action becuase I've been stuck trying to many different things for years I see nothing will work.
I do know what I want though just not how to get from here to there.
