It seems to me that you indulge her too much. There is real work to do, and it won't get done if you don't pursue it. The homework is very important. The post sessions are good, but they can't fix your marriage. You guys have to do the work. My H was lazy when we got home. I insisted that we had to dialogue not less than 4 times a week. 20 minutes four times a week is not a huge imposition on anyone's time!
