Love discussing love.. Helen Fisher (Why We Love) has narrowed love down to brain chemistry. Initial "in love" feelings (and brain chemicals that use the same receptors as cocaine!) last 18 months to 3 years, longer if there are barriers in the way of that love. Fisher then goes on to describe how love becomes warm and dependable, and attachment occurs or love dies. Her book is not about affairs, but is a good explanation of what we are all going through.
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Love is a verb, it requires loving actions. The more you do loving actions for the person you choose to love, the easier it is to feel the love.
So what's the difference between these two ways of looking at love?
I'd say that Fisher's definition relates to the "in love" feeling, an adjective, while my definition has to do with "love as an action', a verb.
Have you read The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint Exupery? If not, get it, you can read it to your son. It is a children's book, sort of. It contains great wisdom about life, and the meaning of life, of love, and of death.
It is about the Little Prince and his flower and his sheep and his travels. He meets a fox and asks the fox to play with him but the fox says he can't because he is not tamed. Once the fox is tamed by the Prince he tells him the secret...."It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye"...."It is the time you have devoted your rose that makes your rose so important." Love grows from acts of love. Yes, let him do acts of service to you.
