Quote: I don't WANT to be mad at him, but there is a bit of me that is still feeling resentful over feeling like I got screwed. I was after all unhappy with the r and upon learning about his "friendship" and dealing with his leaving let feelings fester of "I'm the one who should have done it".
You're pissed because he one-upped you!!
Hey, I can deal with that. That's true and honest. And what it also says is that neither one of you is truly happy.
That's OKAY!! It's okay to be unhappy. It's even okay if BOTH of you are unhappy. The important part is for both of you to say, 'hm. We're not as happy as we want to be. What are WE going to do about it?'
Own it. Get him to the point that he is willing to own it, too. I'm sure you know very well that recognizing there is a problem is half the battle.
Sorry, I did not mean to make you cry. Clearly, you have needs that are not being met, and it ISN'T all you, though I think I said that in my last post. He has needs that aren't being met, and I don't think HE is clearly communicating them to you, or I'm sure you'd be more than happy to do what you could to accommodate him.
Quote: why do I think that all these feelings would be resolved if h would just show more interest physically?
Because it is a language you understand. What you do not understand is HIS language. So what you've determined here is that anger is not getting what you want, and being a friend to him is not getting you what you want.
Let me interrupt myself here by saying I hope that you understand that you are in fact a wonderful, giving person and someone completely worthy of being loved for who and what you are. If you don't truly know this, then you have some work to do with yourself. Regardless of what he does or doesn't do, you can concentrate on yourself because you are worth it.
Okay. So anger and friendship aren't getting you what you want, and you are not clear what his needs are.
