1. When you fixed your W's mess, that wasn't really about friendship, that something that you did out of a sense of obligation/being needed (I assume).
2. When your W talks about friendship, I don't know what she's thinking, but I assume that you believe that the friendship will come with obligations and expectations.
3. I agree with you that fixing stuff for her is probably not helpful for you right now, even if feeling needed by her may feel like a tiny rapprochement.
4. Any future friendship would have to be both realistic (low expectations) and nourishing to you (feels good, adds positive energy to your life). That may not be possible, of course.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
