Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

Okay. So today I kept the panties in the drawer...no "droppage" LOL!

But WH arrived while I was still in PJs. I got ready and went grocery shopping for 3 hours! Well, went to Costco too.
When I returned, I unloaded the car on my own and started making the white chicken chili recipe that Mindfull gave me.

When I returned from the store, I played with S a little while WH was playing with him too.

I picked up some jalepeno popper flavored doritos at the store and ate some, and offered some to WH. He liked them and said thanks. I discovered that my new sandals still had the alarm tag on them so I asked WH if we had any wire cutters to get it off...could he please take it off for me? He said he would love to do that!

Let's see...WH cleaned out the humidifier for S. I thanked him for it. Before he left, WH said "I'll take the garbage to the curb, and I got all the garbage from the house, including S' diaper pail..." argggh! He has been doing this every week for 7.5 months now...why tell me? Is he trying to get a compliment from me or trying to point out that he is being helpful? I still said "great, thanks a lot!" like it was an extra task he did.
He said he would check in with us in the a.m. and I said "see you tomorrow!"

Now I did say something to him...I asked if he could make his famous salsa tomorrow if I got the ingredients (forgot today). Then I said "I know that I should learn how to make it though...and pizza crust and chili...I need to figure out how to make those things that you always made!" (???I don't know why I was saying that-I wasn't doing it on purpose) But he said "you could make the crust!" and I told him that yes, I could figure it out but that he really had it down and could tell what to fix if it was too sticky or something.

Then I was eating my chicken chili and commented that I would like it to be thicker. He lit up and said I could add tomato paste or reduce it down but turn the fan on low. I mention this brcause it struck me as if he was missing cooking. Oh I bet he gets to do it at OW's, but she has a tiny kitchen, hardly any pots and pans and utensils (well that was 2008). We have just about EVERYTHING you need!

So I felt good...I am thinking that it's good to make the time I do spend with him/around him pleasant, happy, and just establish consistent positive associations. I was also able to be gone and busy.Tomorrow night I am going to my class and then won't see him until Wednesday.