Newmama, I think you are smart to follow the DB coach's advice. I think that the sitch of having young children does create different dynamics than is the case for those who have no children or older children. Even if there is an A involved.
Newmama, I do think it's good for children to have a bit of a transitional period when changing caregivers. I would encourage you to figure out a way to make it a positive time when your H is lingering a bit. I know it's hard for you though.
I enjoy the positive energy that you give off in your thread and I'm sure your H picks up on it too.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.