about H's move. that would be good. not just for you, but for him too. he needs to get out of his enabling sitch, and start living a life that creates boundaries and consequences. but, I would be shocked if it happened.
hey, don't tell lies, it'll only get you in trouble, and it will confirm their feelings that your mom is too old, if your hiding it, which shows you are scared for people to know she's watching her. I would be proud of your mom watching her, she probably does better than anyone else would, with all the attention she gives her. But, what you can say instead, "she's in great hands", or "a family member" or whatever, and change the subject asking a question about something she likes, or about herself. and if she eggs on, well, you may just tell her, that's not her concern. or you can say, "my mom, she is so good with her, D really loves playing with her!" and be excited about it, like it's the best thing in the world. if you act scared about it, then they are going to be even more of the mind that it shouldn't happen.
does that make sense? remember about Michelle coming off the airplane, acting as if?
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
or you can say, "my mom, she is so good with her, D really loves playing with her!" and be excited about it, like it's the best thing in the world. if you act scared about it, then they are going to be even more of the mind that it shouldn't happen. 
