Hate to do this go you, gal, but you didn't answer my question. You told me what you think 'she' was getting out of it, but you didn't tell me what you think your 'h' was getting from the encounter.
I know you are pissed about the whole thing. I don't blame you. I don't really give a crappola what the OW got from the experience as she is a loser, and we both know that.
What was going on in your lives that H's attention was able to be diverted, and what do you think he was getting from it?
You also made some other intersting points here; what he says happened, and whether you believe him.
There is still a forgiveness issue going on with you; because if you'd truly forgiven him, it wouldn't matter to you one way or another. What would matter to you is from this day forward.
So you are still dealing with palpable anger, trust and forgiveness issues. I'm sure he is picking up on that. I'm not blaming you in the least, but can you see how you may still be contributing to this endless cycle?
