Quote: I'm interested, though, in what YOU think your H was getting from that encounter?
thanks for the reply corri, thought I was going to get lost in the shuffle here.
what do I think h got from those encounters (it was a "friendship" that had been going on for about a year before I found out and then continued for another year through seperation etc before he came home and "had" to give her up) I could accept their "friendship" may have at one time been non-physical, but I find it hard to believe that a man and a woman would leave leave their homes and ask their spouses for divorce to persue being together and not so much as kiss each other??
I'd love to hear about your experience if you'd like to share but I know the drill.
so back to what do I think h was getting out of that r???
gee let's see...she (a woman married to a man who probably treated her much like my h treats me...works and provides a home for her and the children etc) thought my h was great...they (ow and her h) had built a new home that needed landscaping so they hired my h, she made him posters of her yard. In reading the letters she wrote to him she's pretty damn immature she a grown woman actually signed letters 1436 (in case you've grown up and forget highschool lingo that's i love you always)
of course it was easy for her to think he was wonderful..he was paying attention to her...he was stopping by her house, calling her to go to lunch..so why wouldn't be happy around him..he was her escape...she could cry to him and complain about her h and my h could console her (she has cancer and 'claims' her h doesn't care boo hoo poor wittle ow) while I sat at home alone with h basically just providing for me, denying any request to go out together..denying an invitation to grab some lunch with son and I if we happend to be in the area he works (and yet he somehow made time to be with her a few days a week here and there)
I just don't get how he wants to blame me...claim that I am misserable and unhappy...well gee h think about it..I'm sitting here being your cheerleader and I'm not getting half of what your little "friend" got from you. why should I be happy...I feel like I'm just the wife you came home to out of guilt.
