Yes I have proof she was talking to OM that day. She later basically confirmed it - her way of answering is to not answer in order to avoid lying since she never knows what kind of proof I have since I caught her more than once in the past. Therefore I am very careful about how I pose questions, but in this case I have hard proof. It was unclear whether or not it was just a phone conversation or whether or not it was followed by meeting each other.
Yes I think she is getting some pressure from OM. That is what prompted her to schedule mediation appointments a month ago I am sure.
She doesn't jump at the chance of divorce because of guilt and the impact to the kids. Otherwise, she would be gone. I think she is waiting for me to make the decision.
Do I have hope? I guess I do but only because people say there is always hope.
The thing that has the biggest impact on me now is that it has been 15 months of hell since the bomb. That's a long time. I just don't see how it can turn around after this long especially since she has never given up OM. I feel like I have tried everything except D her or physically throw her out which I can't do legally.
Maybe OM will dump her and run away if she actually leaves, who knows. I feel like giving the guy a peice of my mind, but the last time I did he went whining to my W. I really have nothing to lose now, however.
We have a mediation appointment in the morning so it will be interesting to see how things go. The L is going to give us information on support/alimony, and the next step will be to finalize an agreement and file it.
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
