In fact, it would be good if you simply stopped talking. Period. Let her wonder what you are thinking for a change.
And DO NOT move out of your home. You have allowed her to call too many of the shots already. Plus, she wants you out of the house and out of her way so that she can, ahem, "entertain" her OM.
If you do indeed wind up D'd, get your fair share and split for NYC. Do not look back. She doesn't deserve the time of day from you.
And if you really think that she will be glad that you move back to NY, I believe you will find that the reality of your being gone will affect her in the opposite way. Her control over you will be gone and my guess is that it will unnerve her.
