6months pregnant & husband involved in PA

[newmama]

Hi Piano,
yes I do want him to come back to me. He sees his S 6 days a week and is over here 4 days/week.

I did have my WH at the birth because I wanted him to bond with S and did not want my S to not have a dad in spite of what WH did to me. Does that make sense? I had him attend labor classes too. I was able to disassociate enough while he was there...in fact I could give a crap about who was in the room! All I was focusing on was getting that baby out, LOL!

SO IF you want him to bond with your baby, yes, do invite him to whatever baby appts. and labor. But do not bring up your relationship. Strange, I know, but you explain that this is about co-parenting your child together.

I recommend that you stay with your parents throughout the pregnancy. I had no where else to go so I just did it alone. The nights scared me because I was always worried about something happening to the baby like early labor. One time I fell in my driveway and called WH but got his voicemail. My nearby aunt was out of town and it was late at night so I felt bad calling the 1 friend in town who knew about my sitch. I drove myself to the hospital. Of course when WH got my message he felt horrible and said he would never turn off his phone again. But stayed with the hobag.

YOU SHOULD STAY WITH YOUR PARENTS! EVERYONE KNOWS that when you are pregnant, you're vulnerable. So you have permission to not appear "strong" in the sense of wanting someone there for you if you need help getting around, etc.

If he decides to come around, he knows where you are.

From 3/31 to 6/30 I saw WH maybe 4 times. I felt strong and had self respect for "kicking him out" and not ever contacting him, although he would come to the house to do stuff while I was gone and wrote me letters about what he did, etc. He did not want to come back though. Once S was born, it all came back and at one point he said he was thinking about returning. Then another point said it wasn't fair to make me wait for him and we should divorce. Nothing has happened though.

(((Piano))) (((hugs)))