There seems to be many of us stuck in this boat. My WAW announced almost two years ago that she was done with the marriage and wanted a divorce. I fought like hell to try and save the marriage and with the help of the state I live (requires a full 1 year separation before you can even file for divorce) have delayed the divorce so far. She moved out about 5 months ago. When she moved out she made it clear to me that she had no interest in remaining married to me, so I tried to "move on" recognizing that all of my actions so far had made no positive impact. I had no problem finding someone to date who obviously likes me a lot, however it just hasn't felt right - I am clearly not ready. Now I feel bad for this person that I have been going out with.
Too make matters even more confusing, my WAS lately has started giving me conflicting messages about her resolve to get a divorce, i.e. increased affection (lingering hugs and a couple of kisses.) Recently I sent her an email asking her if she was having second thoughts and got no response back, other than a bit of distance initially, but now she is back to giving mixed signals.
Because we have two school age girls that we share responsibility in getting to school each day, we see each other on a daily occasion. These interactions are always friendly. We co-parent extremely well and our girls have adjusted completely to our separation. My problem is I am tired of limbo and do want to move on one way or the other - however with the mixed signals I still don't want to miss out on an opportunity to put this family back together. Sorry for the rant and ramble - and hijack. Just wanted to let you know you are definitely not alone.
