If people seek out similar maturity levels, though, we have to note that WE were with them, too.
I notice that many people--including JS in my opinion--were the overfunctioners in the R. Yes, our spouses disintegrated...however, we controlled. We need to learn how to stop caretaking and be responsible for ourselves. Just as they have to learn that same lesson.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D