It's how we are. I am more passionate about things and life and since I decided to turn this around, I am willing to work hard for it. He isnt that way. As long as he doesnt do his part, I hold back, as long as I hold back, he isnt "feeling" well into our M. Again a gridlock.
Are you working "smart" instead to break this useless cycle? The WAS usually does not or is incapable of doing the work, and perhaps you are expecting what's not possible or are coming to incorrect conclusions. I didn't sense you were in "piecing" after reading your recent posts. What most of the others are saying about "negative thinking", the shallowness of "birthday/valentine's day" feelings and "expectations" in general seems to come across to me too. Perhaps his coming back means you have to change in these areas. You are right that others' advice (including the C, and mine too) is just that something seen thru' their narrow vision and so you'd have to pause to think about it and then either use it or blow it away - I discovered this the very hard way myself.
