Like MPT said, it is as important to learn how to receive graciously as it is to give without any expectation of something in return.
Clearly your H has something to learn about receiving graciously, and it could be very, very difficult for him. It could be a control issue, it could be a vulnerability issue. How many years did he live on his own before the two of you married?
You do sound much more relaxed and I'm glad to see you are concentrating more on yourself. It does help to keep your attention diverted.
Let me ask you something. Why do you think your husband was attracted to you initially? (other than you being ravishingly beautiful and he just couldn't help himself
