msm, I ran across some of your earlier posts while I was catching up on the bb. I'm altering my earlier assessment of your H a bit. He may be one of those independent types I mentioned, but at the same time, I don't see these people getting depressed that much. The occasional brief blues, yes, but not depression.
Seems like your H needs a success experience right now. If you open the conversation I mentioned in my earlier post, be positive about your relationship. If he is seriously depressed, he may not be able to handle an R discussion that could in anyway leave him feeling like he isn't measuring up. I bet he needs you more in his life now than perhaps ever before. Your presence may be what keeps him going.
Exercise. If he won't do anything for his depression, get him to go for walks with you if nothing else. Exercise is just about always on the treatment list for depression.
