I am not trying to blame you for the fact that your H is in a MLC. I am trying to say that I think you could avoid some of this pain that he is inflicting on you. Reread what you wrote from your H perspective, not easy to do because he is not acting rationally, however, you can not use your children as a wedge to bring up R talk and expect that to go well. Yes it concerns your children, the end result concerns them. Are you at the end yet?
All I am trying to say is to let go! Stop trying to control the sich. Its not going to work. Your H is going to do whatever it is that he going to do. The depression controls this. NOT YOU. You need to stay out of the way.
OK. I am not trying to hit you too hard with a 2x4.
