flowmom | shifting from devastated to rebuilding

[flowmom]

Thanks for guiding me on dealing with BIL/PIL. It feels tricky because H has really mixed feelings about my contact with them: he wants me to be in contact with them (for the kids I assume), yet it feels like me invading "his" space when I occasionally call MIL to maintain grandparent R. I guess that's in the "not my problem" category. PILs are going to be my kids' grandparents regardless of H's unilateral decisions. He wants to control his universe, but he doesn't get to break the entire web of interconnectedness that exists.