I have been trying to be nice to my H and he just doesn't let me!!!
The main problem I have is that being the HD spouse and no having sex for now almost 2 months , is that I feel so utterly rejected. I have been doing I think I good job at not nagging him as well as really being appreciative of his contributions, they being a meal he prepared, washing clothes, etc, no critical, just very very supportive, but everytime I try to do ANYTHING for him . i.e clean the back of his black turtleneck that had a few cat's hairs, he just won't let me . I mean it sounds like I am overreacting, but that is the latest one, he constantly doesn't allow me to do anything for him. I have even told him that sometimes loving also mean let other people love you, but he keeps on telling me basically needs nothing of me!. The funny thing is that he doesn't say that in anger at all, it is almost like he cannot understand why I even want to help him in anything? he doesn't see anything wrong with us just being there in the same house, but doing nothing in commun and not interacting.
Can't he understand how hurtfull that is?? Is not just that he doesn't need my touch...that is so painfully clear... but he doesn't even want to accept any kindness!!!
I am so frustrated of his attitude, this I don't need anybody crap!
This morning I got so mad with him that I left for work without even saying goodbye, or kissing him which I never do. I am not even going to call him today at work to "just say hello" like I normally do, since it is so clear that that annoys him too. I feel like such a wimp, always loving him, always saying nice things to him, while he is innappreciative and distant and will more than likely really appreciate if I never "interrupted him" on his everyday activities that, of course, do not include me .
I am at a loss, I am so angry and frustrated. I don't know how to take this anymore, this constant reminder that we are nothing but roommates in his head.
