[/quote]H, Yes I still don't want to keep the house but have been spending the last several mos. looking at options for where to live without burdening my family. I have to find a place that will take 2 lg. dogs. The L is working on the S agreement, and I have to think about what I can afford, as I won't be getting much from the house. Plus the credit card debt we have to pay off asap. So I don't have a date for moving out set yet. Figuring out all the finances & separating everything has been a lot of work and takes a lot of time, especially since I work so much overtime.
I have to pay the 2 gas bills since they haven't been pd for a few months. One is $353 (apt.) and the house is $475. I get pd. Fri. so I'll pay $400 and can you pay $400?[quote]
Well, the English teacher in me wants each sentence shorter. Less emotion. More matter of fact.
I don't want to keep the house. I have been looking at options. I have to find an affordable place that will take the dogs. I am taking the necessary time and steps to find a place, and figure out finances and the details of the separation agreement. The L is working on the S agreement. I want to find a suitable place ASAP, but I cannot guarantee it will be by April.
The 2 gas bills are overdue. One is $353 (apt.) and the house is $475. On Friday I'll pay $400. Please pay your $400 by Friday so this account will not be in arrears. We also have to figure out paying down the credit card debt.
OR something like that? I just took out a lot of the what looked to me like "extra" words.
LFA, we are in such parallel places. I guess I feel a little jealous of you (isn't it funny how TRAGEDY is all RELATIVE) as I do want to stay in the house, and that fight will tear me apart) But anyhow, I am so glad that you are clear on getting out of the house. Just don't let him push you on the April thing--not at least without a really good reason as to why it has to happen. Stand your ground that you ARE truly looking for a place, not just dragging your heels to make life difficult for him, which you are not. But I know how hard it is to find a place that will take 2 dogs!
I have to go to meet with my accountant/banker/facilitator friend, so will be updating my NEXT STEPS with whatever wisdom I glean from that. If any.
Be well, be strong, state what you need and want and leave it at that.
