My head is hanging pretty low right now after reading OP's thoughts. I just can't seem to get the hang of this. I am apparently a slow learner. I keep doing all the wrong things.
My L is the one that said that a legal separation is not necessary as long as both spouses are in agreement with their separation plan as it does cost money to file for a S.
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing