It was like he was blaming me for his decision to file.
I think this sounds like he doesn't want to divorce you. Better start reading up on MLCs!
Let me give you another perspective on this. If he has filed for divorce, there is a high probability that he wants to divorce you. Don't be taken in with the guilt-shifting tactics that you are somehow responsible for HIS actions.
He's a big boy; he didn't accidentally walk into a lawyer's office and asked to file for divorce...it's not like he meant to go to starbucks and ended up at the lawyers office.
I'm on the other end of it, but my stbx-h says at times that he feels like he forced my hand to file for divorce, and that he's responsible. It's total malarky. If I didn't want to file, then I wouldn't have filed. If your H didn't want to file for D, then he wouldn't. It's not rocket science.
But there are some similarities. When I told my stbx-h that I was going to file that he asked we wait until we were certain to tell the kids. One reason I agreed to wait for a while was because I knew it would upset the kids. But delaying the coversation with the kids was not at all related to my choice to file. You might want to ask your H if he's reluctant to tell the kids so he doesn't hurt them or is he reluctant to get a D, just so you are clear.
