dear newmama, thanks for your support and I am sorry to hear he chose the OP. Di you hope he will return to you?
I have been thinking about whether or not to have him at the birth (if he still wants, that is)..but how do I have the person who hurt me most in the world in the room when I presume I am going to be my most vulnerable and need to feel 'safe'?
Was your partner at the birth of your child?
What do you think about him coming to the neo-post natal psych sessions?
You're right it is very lonely (and sometimes scary, I imagine) going through a pregnancy without your partner... Did you live alone or with family? I was living with my parents waiting for his return to move back into our old apartment (which we had rented out) and have been too shaken to move back in alone..although I am slowly setting it up in case I get the strength. I have been very concerned that not moving in, and staying with my folks, makes me 1. look less strong and 2. makes me less accessible to him should he decide to come around, etc..


Me 36; H 40
baby born in May
M:13, T:15
Bomb (OW): Dec 09
began DBing: Feb
WH overseas with OW
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