"So do you think sending a mixed message of need vs not is a good thing? A lot of the DBing just doesn't seem to fit when there is an OW/affair involved."
I have been wondering about that myself!
And I don't mean need as in "needy, pleading, crying, looking for reassurance". It is more of a sense of missing their presence in daily life, household issues, parenting and dealing with kid problems. Don't they need to know they have left a hole in the family by skipping off and following their "feelings and impulses" for another? Or is that guilt-producing and a bad thing? I guess a WAS can justify/rationalize it either way, whichever suits their desire!
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
