Tks Lost! That's helpful, still trying to figure out how to search for people/topics in the forums.

Will pick up DR next, have 5 LL already, (didn't study it as well as I should've the first time we S).

I know she would LOVE me to move to NY still help w the mortgage (u/w 35K but...) and let her live there (or possibly if she felt like it later come to NY). No idea what's on her mind right now.

The cat is an ally! He is a comfort to me.

I'm not sure WHAT I feel about going to NYC...yet. The last part of DR says...MC doesn't always work if a WAS has already decided, but I'm not sure that's the case or not. It wasn't great for us and seemed to stir up more sh*t than it solved.

Thanks again, I'm grateful!


Eternal optimist


LBS (me):48
WAW:44
Married:11 T: 16
Separated: 02/10/10
Separated: one year first time, two years ago
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