WAW Using God II

[pigskin]

Do you know for a fact that the OM was there? You just mentioned that he's in the same group of friends. It's kind of hard to enforce anything if you don't know for sure.

I totally understand how upset you are. Remember my W worked with her OM for two years after we separated. I understand you don't want your children around him too, but there comes a time when you are going to have to trust your W and in God. I didn't know if my W were taking my kids to her working place or hanging out with him. I had to give that part up to faith and that one day she would see what a POS this guy was.

And lo and behold, the guy tries to get me fired. Of course my W was planning his going away party at the same time, but it shows what kind of fog they really are in. But I still leave it up to faith that it will work out.

When you do the RO, it will cause more waves. Do you think it's worth it? If so, then do it. Or clarify the boundary that you have again.

I know for a fact. My son told me he was "hanging out with Mr. OM".

I am angry and frustrated, but I can deal with that. I can control how I let my W's poor behavior impact ME.

I didn't think there was much I could do about her bringing the kids in contact with the OM, I just wanted to get other people's takes on it. Seeing sgctxok's post on it in another thread confirmed what I was already thinking.

I would not take legal action unless somehow my kids were in danger; that is the intent of the court order, not to enforce my own boundary of my W's behavior.

I do try as much as possible to "leave it up to God". When I trust in Him, I feel calm and content. When I get irritated over something like my W exposing the kids to the OM, it makes me feel as if I am losing faith that God will handle this. I felt bad about it in church today as I kept thinking about the OM with MY kids - not a thought you want running through your head in God's house.

I don't trust my W. But I do trust God. I just have to make sure I don't let that trust slip, and listen to the feeling He puts in my gut.