WAW Using God II

[pigskin]

I may have gotten my answer to this from something sgctxok posted over on the "Want Help Setting DB Relationship Goals" thread:

I am concerned he will cross the very clear boundary of OW having NC with the kids.

There is not much you can really do about this. And as painful as it is....let go of it. What you resist persists. Making it a boundary, may actually make it more likely that it will happen. I KNOW this is extremely hard for you. Not making it a boundary doesn't mean you condone it. But the truth is...you can't stop it if he decides to d o it. You can fight, make a scene, threaten him in court. Most judges in most states won't do anything about it. You will cause more trouble between him and his children. And his children need it.

Truly, the high road is...let it go. Focus on the thigns you CAN CHANGE. And simply, that is YOUR INTERACTIONS WITH HIM. That's it.