WAW Using God II

[pigskin]

Are you sure of this? Have you talked with your atty about it?

TRO's are pretty standard stuff, and there may be a way you can get one against OM, even if you are separated. It's at LEAST worth looking into.

I myself was going to initiate such an action against my W during our divorce proceedings, when she was having here affair. Tactically, my atty advised doing it IMMEDIATELY AFTER the divorce decree, so as to not necessarily antagonize the opposition, and then of course the D never happened and my wife ended her affair, so it wasn't necessary.

They (Temporary Restraining Orders) are notoriously difficult to enforce, but it's worth looking into, if for no other reason than to let your wife know that you are serious, and stand ready to enforce your stated boundaries.

Puppy

Thanks for the reply, Pup. And congrats on being a Grandpa - that has to feel awesome.

Just from what I know about restraining orders, I believe there has to be a perceived threat of illegal activity. I did a little bit of research on it and it seems to come into play when there are threats or abuse/stalking, none of which I would have on the OM. A hearing must be held to justify it. While bringing kids around an OM is repulsive, it is not against the law.

I guess what I am asking everyone is whether this is a realistic boundary to have now that we are already separated? My children know absolutely nothing of this man and only know him as "mommy's friend from work". While it infuriates me that they would ever be in his presence, it isn't illegal, and my children are not in any danger. I don't want to do some legal wrangling when there is not a clear cut case for it; in my mind that would be petty and vindictive, and that's not who I am. So I'm trying to find a way to enforce some kind of consequence for violating something we agreed upon.

I could tell the kids about the OM, who he is, and what he is doing, but that would be just instigating against my wife and using the kids to do it. I won't use my kids as pawns.

The other thing I was thinking was to talk to my W about it and tell her that I won't let the kids out of the house with her; she will need to visit with them in the home. This might be justifiable as me protecting our children from her moral corruption. Let her deal with getting a legal agreement to force me to give them up.

This is such a pain in the a$$.

Oh, and an interesting side note. My W picked up a lenten bible study guide for me at her church. She got one for herself and said they had extras. Unbelievable hypocrisy.