He said he supposed he could and then I said that we should since he'd made his decision and he said "well, that's what you expected isn't it?" WTF? I said "no, actually it is not what I expected" and then he went on to say that he thought that is what I wanted him to do was to hurry up and make a decision. So, I reminded him that what I said was "that I wanted him to take his time but that I would not wait forever". I said, "I want you to be sure. That talk was weeks ago and I have not pressured you or brought it up since then." Then I said "if you really are not sure, then let's not talk to the kids yet" and he said ok. What I said was probably all wrong. It was like he was blaming me for his decision to file.
I think this sounds like he doesn't want to divorce you. Better start reading up on MLCs!
And it almost feels to me like you get some control now...now that you were presented with divorce and had to think about it, what do YOU want? Do you still want to wait it out? Do you want a legal separation? Do you want a divorce?
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
