Ring On or Ring Off????

[ddstartingover]

and if you caused his anger, face it, see where you did anything wrong, apologize if an apology is necessary...and go on as there would be nothing else you could do.

Dwelling on this one. I can't imagine what I did in THIS instance to cause his anger to flare. I suspect that he's angry that I won't do the divorce his way. We hadn't had much/if any contact in days (and no contact about the D in over a week). Some days I suspect he's just angry that he has to come to what was once his home to pick up his kids----rather than have D16 deliver them to him. He might be angry that I put my ring back on??? I don't know, some that post here tell me to not let his reaction affect me. I knew yesterday that if I went in and saw his anger it would stick with me even longer and may cause me to be reactive----which I
'm trying to avoid.

I don't want to be done. If that was the case I would be divorced already. But I will admit I do think the D will happen ---- which will be the end. It's true, I do feel like I've lost, and with that I know what this all means for me, which will be good for me in the end. I wish I would have realized this sooner, but I know now.