If I was in Cutters Sitch I would be very confused.

He still loves her IIRC as I do my XW but like me an OM is a dealbreaker.

OTOH I know that in reconciliation you have to have 1)Respect and 2)a frienship at first.

Mind you that that Cutter is light years ahead of me in his sitch as I am still a mess and a noob so I really have nothing to offer anyone.

I just wonder when it is appropriate and beneficial for R to become friends and when its not. That's the $65,000 question.

Me:48
W:55
M:22
T:23
Bomb:19Nov09
S:15Jan10
D:11Feb10
EA:Confirmed on 20Apr10
Fast track to her divorcing me