When she's with my ex it's all about fun and games and she goes to bed anywhere between 9PM to 1AM, and gets up anywhere between 6AM and 9AM...and when she comes back to me, she's exhausted and falls asleep in her food or during a movie that I've taken her to see.
You may have already been told this, but document really strange stuff like that. A journal, perhaps? "I was very surprised that my D3 fell asleep while eating", "today, my D3 said her mom told her that the OM could be her daddy".
It sounds like, if I read correctly, that your W and you would be fighting over custody. Having some evidence why only joint or full custody for you would be safe is important. It is too bad she's getting so mean. It makes it hard to be trying to DB when you feel like you are under attack.
I've read that staying M or D is best for the kids when there is gets rid of a longstanding high-conflict situation. I could imaging that joint-custody would be challenging if the rules couldn't be agreed on - perhaps through a mediator.
I hope you're relaxing this Sunday ~
OTMT thanks for the response. I am documenting everything and have saved numberos texts and such...I have ever since the bomb was dropped in November. Some of the documentation is just time that D3 was picked up/dropped off but other times its things that were said, done, strange behavior.
I'm sure my ex is doing the same thing...saving all texts, writing things down and such. I even have a threatening voicemail from her from 2006 (4 months after our daughter was born) where she was threatening to leave with our D if I didnt comply with her demands.
Not once in our R did I ever threaten to either leave her or take our daughter away.
And I may try to relax a little bit...but so far this morning I havent. I've been trying to de-clutter and organize the house...moving more of my ex's stuff to the basement and cleaning in case a social worker does come to visit the home.
With all the painting and remodeling that they're doing over at my ex's dads in making a room for D3, our house has to look at least as presentable and whatnot.
And its going to be an uphill battle for me given some of the things I've done/said in the past month or so. Though I think even my going over to her dads house that night may not be as damning as it initially looks...for the simple reason that I had no idea that my ex and OM would be there together. The only thing I knew as facts were that my ex was at her dads house and D3 was there, and to my knowledge no one else was there...so when her phone stopped accepting texts or calls, and she said she was going to bed at 10PM, something wasnt right. If for no other reason than D3's safety I had a right to go over and make sure things were ok.
