Cutter, please take time to write out a detailed answer on your feelings! It will help you!

Ok here is the short answer to what is happening to you (IMO):

Detachment is going away...retachment is occuring due to the contact. You say you have tucked "a little love" aside. Cutter dahling, after 10 years of marriage it can't be "little!" What I mean is the love is stronger and more powerful than we realize due to the deep bond of attachment we establish with our spouses.

If you want to be done done, no more contact. IF you want to see what happens and believe you can date others while being her friend and WHEN she breaks up with the dr. she will look you up, consider that side too.

But the least painful path is one of AVOIDANCE. I know this 100%!

(((Cutterbug)))

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004