Yes, same here, my wife left the chat client running and the OM had sent a note to her while she was away, I was on the PC and it popped right up in front of me... it was clear from the note she was having an EA with this man at the very least... I just happened to be on the PC at the time...
So, any BS your wife gives you blackskys about violating HER privacy is just that.. BS... she's just an addict being their defensive as usual self. YOU have a RIGHT and an OBLIGATION to protect your home, even if your wife is the person you have to protect your home from sometimes...
This OM she's with is NO GOOD for her... he WILL run out on her... YOU can do something about that... don't let her stop you.
