Your situation is very similar to my own, only I have kids who have to navigate these perilous waters. It's no picnic.
I have only been here a few weeks and already my outlook is reversed simply with the realization that others have been in my position. Among my friends it seems like nobody would understand, but here on this forum you'll find many people with stories related to your own.
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I have no desire to provoke him, I just want to also be able to get on with my life, with or without him, and I have to go back. If he does not want to see me, that's ok but I have lots to sort out and all my stuff is there.
This was my situation. My own wife would follow me around screaming. "Get out of my house! I want to see some progress toward you moving out! Go live in the shelter for chrissake!"
One day, after my son was forced to witness these histrionics, I turned around (I had always ignored her when she lost it) and calmly told her that it was not her house, but our house, and when a judge told me to leave I'd go ahead and move on. Her tone changed instantly.
The marital home is your home too. If he wants to be done with you, he is free to file and have a judge legitimize any complaints. The judge will give you time to get your stuff and find a new place.
I'll think about you today. I'm hopeful that your situation will improve, with or without your spouse. Peace...
M:40 W:40 2 teenagers ILYBNILWY: 09 January 2010 soon to be walking away my situation
