First meeting w/ WAW, I'm shaky need encouragement

[SweetCyborg]

Well, it went fairly well, thanks to all your suggestions and support. I was upbeat without being fake, although I blathered on more than I wanted to (she's not very talkative/open so if I hadn't spoken very little would be said). She just wanted to talk about next steps and didn't mention D.

I said we shouldn't make any 'sudden moves' (too much?). She wanted to know if she stayed at her girlfriend's house for a couple of more weeks, could I go somewhere (?!) friends or inlaws so she could be in the house for a while (she misses the house and the cat). I said I wasn't sure about anything yet.


When we separated during her PA, I was angry, hostile, even mean. I suggested I would take a leave of absence from my job (which is very secure) go to NYC for a month stay with friends and look for work. She wanted to know if I would still consider this. (I am considering that (moving on?), but didn't tell her.)

I've even scoped out the job opps in NYC, and (probably mistakenly) hinted about that.

Overall, I'm proud of myself for smiling, listening, patting her arm when she started to tear up.

I wanted to say so much (a great new therapist I heard of, the fact that we were having more good times than bad, the fact that the affair was over and I was working on forgivness...), but I didn't.

We have plans to meet again in 10 days to discuss living arrangements.

Is it unwise to campaign to her parents (who love me and know she's not always 'well')?