When she's with my ex it's all about fun and games and she goes to bed anywhere between 9PM to 1AM, and gets up anywhere between 6AM and 9AM...and when she comes back to me, she's exhausted and falls asleep in her food or during a movie that I've taken her to see.
You may have already been told this, but document really strange stuff like that. A journal, perhaps? "I was very surprised that my D3 fell asleep while eating", "today, my D3 said her mom told her that the OM could be her daddy".
It sounds like, if I read correctly, that your W and you would be fighting over custody. Having some evidence why only joint or full custody for you would be safe is important. It is too bad she's getting so mean. It makes it hard to be trying to DB when you feel like you are under attack.
I've read that staying M or D is best for the kids when there is gets rid of a longstanding high-conflict situation. I could imaging that joint-custody would be challenging if the rules couldn't be agreed on - perhaps through a mediator.
