All in all was a good time. Had a couple of bumps in the road, but I held it together and went forward. The kids had a blast.
H is going through one of his moods... his insecurity moods, and I know I should be extra careful with this, but its just so damn exhausting. I don't want him enough, I don't need him enough... he's the 3rd on the list... ugg!! I just can't get anywhere... he yells over the most stupid things at me,and I think its all just confliction in himself.
Side note: I was uploading some photos from our trip on FB and I had a message in my inbox. It was an old boyfriend I had in High school who I was madly in love with (he was a jerk though) He happend to be my first love, first everything actually. I nearly fell off my chair. It just said how have you been, send me a message if you get a minute.
Nothing major, but definately weird. Haven't heard from him since 10th grade.
So my question to pose to you guys is should I tell H, or should I just delete it and forget I ever got it. I don't wish to communicate with him, other to say im good and that's it.
So my mind is telling me I need to tell him because its what I would want if the rolls were reversed, on the other hand if I do he may get even more in-secure than he already is... but what if I don't respond and H finds out he sent me a message????
ahhhhh... what should I do guys??
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Ok Guys, since knowone answered me fast enough yesterday, I didn't want it to sit too long and H wonder why I did or didn't tell him.
But I did tell him. I don't like to lie or keep things from him so I told him and showed him the email. He actually was ok with it. I did respond only to say everything is good and that was about it.
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
I think it is good that you told him. If you don't make a big deal out of then chances are neither will he. I am glad your vacation went well. I do hope things get better for you.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Good morning my friends... Haven' been on lately, Dealing with Sickness and just too many things going on.
If any of you can explain something to me.... The other night I got invited to go to this"reunion meeting" of my class. It was only about 8 of us. I invited H because we never get out and thought it would be nice. There was only one other husband there.
Anyways, He acted like a complete idiot. Saying things that were inappropriate with sexual conitation.. and then was "jokingly" giving out his cell phone number to one of my friends there, whom really isn't a friend, I actually don't like her.. but I just couldn't understand it. I tried to ignore it , but I was steaming mad.
One of the people from my class he actually dated and had sex with.. but this was ya know 21 years ago, but he had no problem with talking to her about 30 minutes, Im generally not a jealous person, but considering all the crap he has put me through and that she was an ex of his, I wasn't too comfortable with the whole thing.
Is this an act of insecurity by acting like that???? I could have dumped him on the spot I was so annoyed and embarassed by his actions and what he was saying.
I don't know how the hell I got here.. I don't, what the hell was i thinking 20 years ago ... I know this is my own doing and I have no one else to blame.. but ya know, my tolerance of this behavior is getting less and less as I get older.
God help me, He just doesn't think he's done anything wrong.. Here I am freaking out b/c one of my EX's sent me an email and I showed H.. and here he is flirting and giving out his number right in front of me... Him of course thinking it was funny the whole time!!
Please someone explain this to me???
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
1) One of the people from my class he actually dated and had sex with... but this was ya know 21 years ago," My W OM was someone she "dated" over 20 years ago. And yes he was married then also to the same woman today. So I don't care how long it was...
2) Anyways, He acted like a complete idiot. Saying things that were inappropriate with sexual connotation... And then was "jokingly" giving out his cell phone number”
Maybe he was just nervous. I know when I am nervous around some people I "joke around" too. Especially if he did know these people and did not see them in years and used to joke with them.
Just maybe Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I apologize for not checking in more often, although I do try my best to keep up with you. I hope everyone in your house is feeling better and you are thawing out, the snow has really pounded you this winter.
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
